Do Men Love Bitches???

If you’ve had a relationship where you’ve done all you can to do right by your man, and things still didn’t go as planned… the first phrase that’s more likely to come out of your mouth will probably be “Well men love bitches.” Because a book titled that very same phrase can be found in your local book stores, women feel inclined to think that yes, men do love bitches.

When I asked a few men their thoughts on whether they would date a bitch or not, funny enough I found that men who hold high professional positions such as financiers and attorneys tend to be attracted to the domineering sort of female who carries the title of a “bitch.” Are these relationships the healthiest? Not so much. These men are looking to fill a certain kind of role in their lives. These are men that are socially considered strong, yet undercover, enjoy the emasculating process… hence their love for “The Bitch.”

Men who are secure with themselves, seemed to be attracted to the kind of women who has no problem being herself. The kind of women that can stand independently. The woman that chooses to be with them, but doesn’t need them.

A few weeks back, I mentioned that men are predators in search of their preys. Therefore if a woman is confident and realizes that she doesn’t need the man… he will be more inclined to want that prey versus any other.

As stated by Doménico Cieri Estrada, “To know when to go away and when to come closer is the key to any lasting relationship”. So whether you’re the no non-sense kinda women, or the wholesome type that’ll ride out a situation, or the one foot in-one foot out till your sure kind of chick, don’t try faking the funk. Be true to who you are, and remain independent so you can gage when to go away or come closer. Mr. Right will love, accept and cherish you for you. With Mr. Right now you’ll have to put up a front, and in the end, the truth always comes out.

 

“I saw the sign… and it opened up my eyes”

As much as we want to make the connection with that special someone, If we see signs or flags being waved, turning a blind eye is not the thing to do. I’m not saying run at the sight of the first flag wave, but definitely take a mental note of what you see and assess what it means. It’s easy for women to over analyze and over think things, but it’s also more common for them to stay in a situation that isn’t right just because they’ve put in the time so they deal with the crimes. Let’s look at some scenarios of what Mr. right and Mr. right now would do and how to take note of a wave.

What Mr. Right would do:

            You just started dating a new man. It had been less than a month. Your birthday comes up and you gather some friends for dinner to celebrate, and decide to invite the object of your affection. Mr. Right, not knowing your friends or you in actuality, not only shows up, but throughout the night stays by your side and makes an attempt to genuinely get to know your friends.

What Mr. Right now would do:

            You decide to throw a party. All you can do is talk to your friends about how excited you are to have them finally meet the object of your affections. He tells you he’ll be there a little later in the night because he has a prior engagement. Hours into the night, no sign of him. You call his cell… no answer. You text…still no answer. End result he never shows up.

            Mr. Right put you & your interests first because a man is out to appease the woman he wants, but Mr. Right now waved the flag labeled “your not important enough to me to appease.” Don’t take it personal… “He’s just not that into you” and that’s ok… when you see a flag, recognize it, and if you see enough… then you know what’s up.